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"I find comfort in checking the weather where my husband is incarcerated... It makes me feel closer to him"
I think we sometimes do not want to admit this but I believe that missing someone is beneficial to a relationship. I think that you cannot appreciate a person until you know how it is to be without them. Most of the time we need certain people in our lives to motivate us, to make us feel better, to make each day happier but if that person is there everyday, all the time, their actions and prescence in your life looses meaning.
Additionaly, I want to mention that we sadly are reliant on other people. As much as we like to think we live for ourselves, I think we don't; I think we live for others. The woman in the secret is checking the weather where her husband is to in a small way, suffer with him in prison. His well-being is more important than hers at that moment.
Missing the past is normal, natural, bound-to-happen but my last words on this topic are that if one ever wants to proceed with life, he or she has to let go of the past and forget it and look into the future.
Even though you're not in my "student blog group," I always like to check in on this one! Post Secret is like an ingrained Sunday morning ritual in my life. It's become second nature to just type in the site when I wake up in the morning... don't know if I should admit that.
ReplyDeleteI agree that missing someone can be beneficial to a relationship. But, I also think missing someone can expose the strength and independence someone can have on their own. If we constantly have the crutch of someone we love, we begin to define ourselves as that pair, not as an individual. I know from a previous breakup after 4 years that I had begun to define myself as me with him. When we went to college, I missed him, but I found myself as just simply me... and that was just as beautiful of a thing.
I totally agree with you that though missing someone is good at times, it isn't really that healthy in the long term. Sometimes one just gets so enraveled in missing that person that they forget about themselves and their own well being. Missing that special person comes along with the love you shared but before anybody else, a persons own well being comes. A person can not lose themselves just for that one person that they miss.
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